Ah yes, the white elephant in the room!
The vast majority of Boudoir photographers are female. There are some very talented ladies across the country doing some fantastic work. Like Christa Meola whose work I admire. And, I imagine, there are a group of clients that would only do boudoir with a female photographer. I completely understand that.
However…
A good portion of my clients specifically tell me they preferred the idea of a guy taking the photos. Why? Because the photos ultimately were for a guy. They felt my images are less “lingerie catalog” and more “mens magazine”. I think that is an accurate description. Honestly, I am not interested in shooting you in a tone that belongs in a department store ad, which, if you take a look around most boudoir falls into that category. I do not take the “shoes on a bed” canned photo. There are plenty of people our there that will do that for you, if that is what you prefer. The internet is full of boudoir photographers who feature pretty pictures of women in lingerie. Thats great, but it’s just not my style.
Boudoir photography does not have to break your bank account. A thousand dollar wardrobe budget sounds amazing, but it is a bit unrealistic in this economy, no? Give me a makeup artist, an hour of your time, and a bed sheet, and we will capture images that will have him flustered for weeks. If you have not noticed yet, I am a minimalist. I want to feature you looking like you never have. Everything else is secondary.
My images not only show how pretty you look, but convey how sexy you feel. They have the “wow” factor. My images are meant to knock a guy’s socks off. I love hearing feedback from wives and girlfriends of their guy’s reactions. It is always positive and once the quality of the images is obvious, the gender of the photographer becomes irrelevant. In fact, I have received cigars and bourbon as thank you gifts from the fellas, which is always appreciated. 
In short, find a reputable photographer whose style you feel serves the ultimate purpose of the shoot and go with it, regardless of gender.
Here are some first hand accounts direct from the client’s keyboards…. http://g.co/maps/6wv6